What shouldn't you apologize for? Psychotherapist's advice

They say that once again to say "I'm sorry" is even better. But psychotherapists think otherwise. What you should not apologize for, according to experts

How often do you apologize? On business, just like that, for a bunch of words? Often we confuse good manners with more complex, psychological situations that we don’t even think about. And if you sin like this, you should listen to the opinion of the psychotherapist Andrey Sumsky. He highlighted the main things for which you should not ask for forgiveness:

if you do not like what is happening;
if your principles are not perceived. The same applies to your own innermost desires;
for the mistakes of the past;
for your thoughts;
for success;
for other people's feelings and unjustified hopes;
Also, there are several other situations where it is better to remain silent than to say "I'm sorry."

PHOTOS

1. If you want to be successful

According to the expert, an excessive need to apologize can destroy your authority at work and status in society. After all, a person who says “sorry” for every sneeze simply ceases to be taken seriously and is regarded as a windbag. Such a person is insecure, and the team vividly uses this for their own purposes. Be prepared to be kicked about.

2. If you want to be a leader

According to European psychologists, limitations in apologies...increase self-esteem! Yes, yes, you didn't think so. This is what contributes to the cultivation of an inner leader, a person who knows how to keep a balance and knows what to strive for.

4. If you want to be mentally healthy

According to, again, psychologists, excessive emotionality and the desire to constantly apologize do not at all indicate education. If you part with "I'm sorry, I'm sorry", you are living a negative scenario: from self-flagellation to underestimation of your own self-esteem. Very often, it is enough just to admit a mistake, and not to bow and repent. By the way, there is a Just Not Sorry plugin that allows you to find places in the correspondence where you indulge in self-destruction.

5. Keep a balance

What is paradoxical, when it was possible to develop self-control, it is worth realizing the following: our borders end where others begin. Because we often hurt without realizing it. If after a while you realize that you “screwed up” and offended a person, then it’s better to apologize. This is evidence that you are a strong person who is responsible for his own actions.